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Your First Day

Dear Becks,

Today, your bookbag will sallow you up.  It’s too big, but you’ll wear it with pride.  You never took a book bag to daycare, because it was for kids’ Coop’s age.  The book bag makes you a big kid and today it’s your turn to officially wear one.  It contains your supplies, but I also think it’s your badge of courage.  And that’s good because your first day is always a little scary.

So let’s cover some basics.  If you forget, that’s ok.  It’s my job to remind you.  On future Back-to-School Eves, we’ll cover the basics again.  One Eve soon, you and your brother will roll your eyes, mimic my tone, repeat the basics, and beg me to stop.  But you’ll continue to get the basics because they’re incredibly important.  So here you go…

  • Listen and suck up the knowledge your teachers spew.  They know stuff and you’ll need to know it too.
  • Be curious and asks questions until you understand the answer.
  • Be kind.  Please be kind.  If you ever see something that you think is unkind, ask yourself “How would I feel if that was me?”  If your answer is “bad”, be brave, be kind, and step in.
  • There’s a difference between laughing with someone and laughing at someone.  Please don’t confuse it.
  • Someone is going to laugh at you.  I wish it wouldn’t happen, but it will.  When it does, remember some kids are just assholes and they don’t define you.  Only you get that power.  Never let anyone define you.  Never.
  • Try really hard to always do your best.  And when you need help, ask.
  • If you’re the kid playing alone, find another kid playing alone.  You don’t need a ton of friends, you just need a few really good ones.
  • I will always be here for you.
  • Coop wanted me to add, “Don’t play on the concrete because it trips you.”  Always listen to your brother.

Trust me, I know this is scary.  I still remember my first day of school.  I remember feeling so small.

Here’s a secret: this won’t be your last First Day.  You’ll experience lots of them.  Funny thing about First Days, no matter when you experience one in life, you will always feel small.

But all you have to do is remember the basics, kid.

The basics last forever.




  • Jen - Fantastic.August 22, 2013 – 8:49 amReplyCancel

  • Anonymous - I love this. My oldest is going to kindergarten this year. I’m going to read it to him. Thanks.August 22, 2013 – 9:49 amReplyCancel

  • skeller - I might have gotten a little teary-eyed reading this. Sage words, my friend.August 22, 2013 – 10:11 amReplyCancel

  • stacey - Sending my youngest off to K in 11 days, not that I’m counting.
    This was so great. I cry at everything so it’s not surprising that I’m sitting here in my tears after reading this.August 22, 2013 – 2:40 pmReplyCancel

  • Kim-Dee Summers - I love it!! I hope Becket had a wonderful day with no ” A” holes anywhere near him:-) He and his family will be missed at the YAugust 22, 2013 – 2:58 pmReplyCancel

  • LarieL - Wonderful advice!August 29, 2013 – 2:46 amReplyCancel

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