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I Need Some Words

You ever think Martha Stewart says to herself:

Damn.  I need to relearn how to fold a fitted sheet.

Ever think Adele screams:

Fuck Me, Love. What rhymes with “heart” and how do I construct a melody?

I wonder if Anthony Bourdain ever lights up a cigarette and tells the closest person:

I can’t cook a steak Medium Rare any longer.


I hope so because right now I feel empty and knowing the answers above might help me a bit.

But that’s insane because those people are masters at their craft.  And I’m just a Girl who takes a good picture and tells a good story.  I’m just a Girl who enjoys her art and who used to love living in it.  Now it’s on the back-burner.  Just simmering and filling life with a scent of what could be or what once was.  It’s in the air taunting me.

Here’s what I know about a pot of anything that simmers.  All it takes is a little heat to push it into boil.  That’s it.  Just a turn of the knob and you’re cooking.

I stopped watching the pot years ago.  That’s a sure-fire way for me to get pissy and turn off the stove: Why bother?  I can be patient.  I know the time will come for me to strap on my apron, pull out the spices, and crank up the heat.

Maybe I could use an ass-kicking.  Maybe I should flip through my Clickin Mom’s Break out.  Remind myself to be patient.  Remind myself of the simple raw beauty that lies within my dirty clothes.  Remind myself why I started taking pictures.  So I’ll read.  Watch life with curious eyes.  Stand back and enjoy.  Remind myself to crank up the heat only when I’m really ready to cook.

Do you need a kick in the pants too?  Clickin Mom’s is doing a Flash Deal of my breakout.   Starting today at 3 p.m. PST (6 p.m. EST) :  Head here and get a cheap ass kicking!

It’s only for 48 hours.  After that I’ll happily kick your ass for full price…

What kind of artist admits to feeling lackluster in the creative department while also trying to sell her guide on owning  your own art?  A guide that’s meant to push you to accept the beauty and art in your own life!?  

An honest one.  

One who knows that creativity comes and goes.  And you should feed it and be patient.  

One who knows accepting Life As Is can be freeing and beautiful.
Even if it isn’t in the form of a pretty picture or beautiful story.

It is what it is.


  • Jodie - Ack! I’ve been wanting that breakout! Sadly, it will have to kick someone else’s ass as this ass lost its job last week. Oh the irony! I could surely use a kick. 😉 Thankfully, you gave me a quilting kick already and I’d already put together a whole stack of strips for a scrappytrip. Thank you! I needed something to keep my mind busy. I’m off to watch the pot boil. 😉July 17, 2013 – 9:23 amReplyCancel

  • Imene - I need a MAJOR kick in the ass. I have not taken pictures for so long it’s becoming ridiculous.
    I was concentrating on getting healthy and moving more but the truth is that I was over thinking the whole being a photographer thing.
    I will get your class I hope it gives me a joltJuly 17, 2013 – 9:30 amReplyCancel

  • Bethany - I feel that way pretty much all the time. Sometimes I get to shooting because I’m inspired by some pretty light, or something in life that I feel needs to get documented, or sometimes when I meet new people and they have cute kids. (It’s kind of creepy, just meeting someone and stalking their kids with my camera, but it helps me connect with them I guess….)

    Anyways, since I know how lazy I can be, I purposely through these things in my life so that I get shooting. Kind of like inviting people over to your trashed house so that you clean it. Once I’m out with my camera, I usually get something I’m proud of.July 17, 2013 – 9:44 amReplyCancel

  • Jen - I hope you curse in there too; I’ll be disappointed if you don’t.July 17, 2013 – 9:01 pmReplyCancel

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